Another he said/she said blog! "Forced" into swigning?????

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New format! He said/She said.

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Breakups

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Honesty? Really?

Be Honest.

Tiger Woods is not a monster. Jesse James is not a monster.

Hitler was a monster. These guys are just shitty husbands.

Both men like a little kink in their coffee, so to speak. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, if you’re into that sort of thing. Provided, of course, that your partner is too.

Jesse James is a big bad biker’s dude. Sandy Bullock is America’s sweetheart. She’s not the kind of freak he needs. He’s not the traditional husband type she needs. He needs a nasty girl who’s into anal, and everything else. Not gonna happen with her. Period.

Likewise with Tiger. He likes his kink, and he damn sure likes his variety. Not husband material, at least not apparently according to his wife’s standards. That’s a big, big problem. I don’t for a second believe that she didn’t know about the infidelity, as in Sandra’s case, but that’s a separate issue.

The issue here is honesty. I am willing to give both men the benefit of the doubt. I think they both went into their respective marriages with the best intentions. The problem is the road to hell is paved with them.

You need to be honest with any perspective partner. If you know you’re not the monogamous type, say it. Be open, let the other party make an informed decision. If they decide to be with you, then they made that choice with open eyes. If you don’t do that, then it’s all on you.

But how can you be honest with a partner, if you’re not honest with yourself? This is the hard part. A person may not be willing to do this, either out of fear or social programming. Marriage and the notion of monogamy are ingrained in our heads from the beginning, for a very simple reason. It fuels the economy.

Make no mistake, there is a big brother, and he wants you to get married and have 2.3 kids. Why? Because it means you’re tied down, easily controlled(especially at the office), and more importantly, you are forced to spend like drunken sailors on everything from homes to cars to baby cribs. Never forget that the American economy is entirely based on mindless consumerism.

Am I saying it’s wrong to get married, have kids, and “settle down?” No. Absolutely not. I think I can be the most amazing thing ever, if it’s really right for you, as long as it’s an informed decision. If you are aware of the options, you’ve experimented and you chose that because it’s right for you, then I wholeheartedly support it. I’m not pro marriage or anti polyamory, or vice versa. I’m in favor of whatever works for you. I’m just saying it’s up to you to decide what that is, and be real about it. This may mean you need to experiment a bit with the options to figure out what works for you. There’s no wrong answer. Just make sure it’s you who decides what’s right for you and not society.