Waiting is the hardest part.

Dear Tazz,

When should I sleep with a guy?
Should I wait a certain number of dates, for example?

Signed,

To wait or not to wait?


Dear To Wait?,

When should you sleep with a guy? When you want to. It’s that simple. If it takes you twenty dates or twenty minutes to feel comfortable enough to sleep with him, fine. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time to make sure you want to sleep with a guy, nor is there anything wrong with you meeting a guy at a club and getting nasty less than an hour later. Just trust your gut and let it happen organically. Just do what feels right to you and don’t worry about the rest. It’s your life and your body and you are entitled to enjoy both on your own terms. Often, women will wait to be intimate with a guy, not because they aren’t ready to sleep with him, but because they are either afraid of being labeled a slut or ho by society or because they have a fixed, number of dates in mind.

First off, there is no such thing as a slut or a ho. They simply do not exist, in either gender. Some people choose to wait till marriage, some only have sex in committed relationships, some only like NSA encounters. None of these attitudes are wrong, despite what our puritanical society may tell you. You have the right to happiness, on your own terms. Decide what you want and live your life on your own terms, but don’t let anyone tell you what that is.

So don’t worry, be happy, and remember be careful out there.